Interview with Nicholas Sparks for the release of his film âThe Choiceâ
By: Â Shari K. Green

PHOENIX, AZ â Nicholas Sparks, as you know, is the author of books such as, Message in a Bottle,  The Notebook and  The Best of Me,  which have all been turned into big Hollywood money makers, not to mention the fact that these films widened his already immense and devoted audience with each movie; suddenly books had to be seen by his fans and the movies had to be read⌠pretty good deal for a Carolina Panthers fan. When he came to town for a chat, I had to go there with him. I asked and, yes, heâs for Carolina in the Super Bowl this weekend, of course, and Iâm for the Broncos. Weâll see.  Anyway, he sat with me and a few others to discuss his most recent offering, The Choice, opening in theaters starting February 5th.Â
 Very bubbly and fun, he walked in the room and gave us a âHow are yaâll doinâ?â Then he grabbed himself a Coke, offered everyone else one, as well, before finding a seat and introducing himself. He tells us that he generally has water the rest of the day, but touring means he usually has caffeine âtil noon and this throws him off his normal healthier schedule, and how can you blame him? This is how he gets through these long days of interviews.  His energy was very nice to be around and I find him to be quite warm and genuine; a very kind soul⌠sincere. He looks you in the eyes when he speaks to you, making sure that not only he is heard and understood, but to be sure to give you the feeling that you are heard and understood. Heâs a very easy person to talk to and one Iâm glad I had the chance to spend some time with. Here are some of the questions from our time together. Enjoy!!  Â
*FYI There will be SPOILERS
Shari:  You are one of the only writers to give us these deep romance stories from the manâs perspective. Do you get stopped on the street and get asked advice on romance all the time?
NS:  No. In fact, I donât know that its ever happened before so how about that. Iâm not recognized by men. Iâm recognized by women sometimes, but never men. Unless Iâm supposed to be in⌠they know kinda where Iâm supposed to be, Iâm very seldom recognized at all. Like, for instance if people know Iâm in Phoenix doing stuff, they might see me in a hotel lobby and recognize me but had they not seen me on the news that morning, they might not. So, in the history of my career as far as I know outside of my hometown of New Bern, North Carolina, I think Iâve been recognized⌠less than a dozen. I had a lady sit next to me on a plane, reading my book, staring at my author photo⌠and she didnât recognize me.  So no; but to answer that question I do, often by journalists, get asked, âcan you give romantic advice?â And I say, âI donât think so.â He laughs.
Shari: So youâre not going to start a column or anything?
NS:  Absolutely not. I just try to write the best novels that I can.Â
Shari:  Being that youâre going through some change right now, what advice would you give to students on making a life changing choice?
NS.: In general? Iâd say, âchoose your struggles wisely because it is your struggles that will define the life you live.â What do I mean by that? If you ask people what they want, if you ask almost anyone what they want, everyone pretty much wants the same thing; they want a job they enjoy and great personal relationships, they want to be close with family and get along with friends, they want to be healthy, right? Everyone⌠the answer is so common itâs ubiquitous, however, if you ask someone, âHow do you choose to suffer?â Thatâll tell you a little bit about the person. I choose to write novels. I isolate myself from friends and family for hours on end. The time vanishes when one writes it feels as though you sacrifice a bit of your life. Iâm willing to put up with the torture of creation, you know, the struggles of writersâ block, to get to the end, right? Thatâs one of the struggles that I choose. So, choose your struggles wisely because how you choose to suffer will largely define the life you live.Â
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Shari: Is the suffering worth it?
NS:  Thatâs the question. Most people donât, I find, get what they want. They really just didnât want it bad enough âcause if you really want something, you really will do what it takes to get there.Â
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Shari: Â For someone who does spend a lot of time in their room, maybe on the computer or what have you, what would you maybe say to someone who needs to maybe break away from that mold and to kind of get into that âromancesphereâ?
NS:  I would say that unless thatâs what they truly want, they probably never will⌠and to accept that. And itâs okay⌠to each his own. (He thinks a moment and speaks again). To⌠to step out of a box in which youâre very comfortable and put yourself in an uncomfortable position, you have to really want to do that and there are certainly joys and wonders that can come about but thereâs also heartbreak and sadness which are also part of the game. You know, everyone wants a wonderful relationship; they pretty much want the view from the top of the mountain but ya gotta be willing to walk up the mountain. Ya gotta be able to do the climb so, if theyâre not willing to then have them accept themselves and to make the most of the lives they can with the friends they have and lifeâs about enjoyment. Lifeâs not only about work, itâs about enjoyment so as long as theyâre good, Iâm good.
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Shari: Has anyone made a decision that you didnât like? One that you had no say in; thatâs the way itâs going to be?
NS:  Has anyone made a decision I didnât like. Sure! We can start with my children. (Laughs) Of course, you know? And⌠I suppose it goes to the nature of the question that was up to require the decision, right? Most of the time I try to live my life by simple words that my mom taught me, âIf someone says something you donât like, or you disagree with, say, (And this is true though) itâs your life you can do with it what you want⌠you can.â Now how I deal with that, thatâs up to me, but you can do whatever you want. My children hate when I tell them that. They hate it with a passion, like, âPut all the burden on me!â But itâs very true. I donât know how successful youâve been at running someone elseâs life, but I already found that itâs not very successful so I try not to give advice.
Shari:Â What are their age ranges?
NS:  Fourteen to Twenty-Four. But itâs not just them, itâs siblings and people you work with. People are going to do what theyâre going to do and the only thing you can control is how you respond to it.
Shari:  Religion became a part of the narrative of the story, subtly and not so subtly; where Travis pulled away from his faith. Do you think that after the story ended, that Travis would go back to his faith?
NS: My opinion is that it would be difficult for Travis not to go back to his faith. That would be my thought on that subject but, of course, thatâs just my opinion on the matter. And that was not an element that was within the novel. That was an element that came about in the film⌠and so, I suppose an even better person to ask would be Ben Walker for his version of the character and the director (Ross Katz).
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Shari:  How did you bring Gabby (Teresa Palmer) and Travis (Benjamin Walker) together?! They had such great onscreen chemistry.
NS:  First we cast people who we thought were immensely talented and then throughout the casting process, we look for chemistry. How do they seem to get along, do they seem to be friends⌠and Teresa has one of these personalities that draws everyone in, and so does Ben, in fact. And so, what they had was just magnetic, even in the read, so, when we put them on screen, when you get them in the big picture, it comes across as being incredible. But itâs something that we definitely look for.
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Shari:  The brother/sister relationship that you had occur⌠is there something in your personal life that you drew from because the sister is very likeable. Her character brought a lot to the film.
NS:  The sister in the novel was an even broader character. Iâve been asked numerous times to write a story about the sister cuz she had it all together and she really did. She was as comfortable as he was, with herself and I find that a wonderful element to someoneâs personality⌠just the comfort with who they are. So, yeah, I was very close to my siblings growing up and Iâm still incredibly close to my brother; we actually took a trip around the world and I wrote a non-fiction book about that called âThree Weeks with My Brotherâ. And, Iâd say Iâm close to my sister, too, but she passed away. She passed away from a brain tumor about sixteen years ago⌠so⌠yeah, the relationship between Ben and his sister was very much inspired by the relationship that I have with my siblings. I had parents that really stressed the fact that your siblings will always be around. Your friends will come and go but your familyâs there forever. In many ways, they are the people that you can tell anything to and they still keep coming back⌠right?

Travis Shaw (Ben Walker) and Gabby Holland (Teresa Palmer) in THE CHOICE. Photo Credit: Dana Hawley
Shari:  Up to the accident, you have your love story⌠and then the accident happened and Iâm in tears; multiple times throughout. What about trauma do you think makes the story that much better?
NS:  Well, I write in a very distinct genre⌠itâs really called a love story as distinguished from a romance novel; a romance novel is really about romantic fantasy and itâs really supposed to be able to allow the reader to escape into a world and you go through conflicts but you pretty much know that the couple is going to get together in the end. Thatâs what itâs about and thatâs why you read them and itâs certainly a very valid, you know, itâs a wonderful genre; Cinderella. I mean, it works every time.  This is a love story and a love story is not necessarily romantic fantasy, although there are romantic elements. The purpose of that is to move the reader or the viewer through all of the emotions of life; to make it feelreal so you might call it romantic realism versus romantic fantasy. And that realism requires the reader or the viewer feel all of the emotions of life, cuz otherwise somethingâs missing⌠you know that; and the simple fact of life is that everyone goes through tragedy. Thereâs not one of us that will escape scot-free.  So, we have characters that feel real then they go through emotions that feel real⌠and they allow you, the viewer or reader to live someone elseâs but to feel like it was a full life; like you got it all even though it was just a snippet⌠a point in time.Â
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Shari: Â You have romance down, for sure, have you ever, even if you did it under a pseudonym or something, considered writing maybe a horror novel ala Stephen King; try a different genre?
NS:  No. I donât. Iâm very happy writing the kind of novels I write. One of the wonderful things about the genre in which I work, is that Iâm able to pull elements from all sorts of genres and build them into my novels. For instance, âSee Meâ, is my latest novel; itâs a love story; these two opposite characters meet, itâs my first Hispanic character and sheâs a lawyer and this guy is a reformed bad-boy and, okay, theyâre going to make it work⌠overcome these obstacles. And somewhere around the halfway point the novel starts devolving into a very twisty mystery thriller. Something like my attempt at what Harlen Coben would do. And Iâm not saying I did it but it was my attempt to do what he does so expertly well⌠and part of the fun of that novel is, the tension is increasing and youâre not even sure whatâs going on. The reader is as confused as the characters in the novel. You can just feel the tension growing and growing. So, I can put elements of mystery into my novels. I put elements of the supernatural in âSafe Havenâ⌠take that for what itâs worth⌠itâs very light. UhhâŚÂ Epic. Iâve done epic sweeping stories like âThe Longest Rideâ. So, all of these elements that are particular to various genres, Iâve been able to put into mine.Â
Shari:Â Have you ever or are you now, writing with a specific actor in mind?
NS:  No. The only time I did that was for âThe Last Songâ. If the movie got made it would be for Miley Cyrus and thatâs because I worked with Disney on the project.
Shari:Â Never??
NS:  No. No. (Laughs) I never⌠never⌠no. (Laughs again)
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Shari:. I love the cast, especially the side characters, Tom Wilkinson and Tom Welling are terrific⌠umm⌠were there any jokes on the set or how was Ben feeling about stealing Supermanâs girlfriend?
NS:  There werenât any particular jokes about that. It was a very familial set because we asked all of those characters to have arcs; even the father had an arc, you know, the sister had an arc. So, because they all had arcs, we all asked them to do various things emotionally and⌠we wanted them to be very comfortable, really experimenting⌠pressing themselves, going out on a limb, really (allowing) them to evoke these emotions in the viewer in a real way and we did that by having it become a family setting. When theyâre filming the backyard for the bbq, things like that, it was like we were at a backyard bbq. The dogs were running around, the kids were over there⌠the sun, itâs beautiful, itâs warm, youâre in your shorts, youâre cooking on the grill; it was like, âI canât believe weâre working.â It was more like that.Â
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Shari: Whatâs it like seeing your novels come to life from a producerâs point of view?
NS:  Itâs a lot of thought. I love the fact that viewers are going to see a new way to hear the story that I conceived. I have my chance to tell the story the way I did in the novel⌠but letâs see how someone else does with my story, you know? What kind of colors, who are we going to cast, how are we going to frame this⌠what elements do we keep, what elements do we change to capture the whole spirit of the story and the characters. For me itâs a wonderful way to experience the story in a different medium.
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Shari: Â Have you ever thought of just skipping the whole novel thing and just writing the screenplay and producing films yourself?
NS:  Sure I have and Iâve chosen to do that in television not as far as film. Television is a bit more like a novel so you have a longer opportunity to tell a specific story. Iâm currently, for instance, writing a pilot for HBO but thatâll give me ten episodes to tell a full story.

Gabby Holland (Teresa Palmer) and Travis Shaw (Ben Walker) in THE CHOICE. Photo Credit: Dana Hawley
Shari: The big ending, whether she lives or dies⌠what was the deciding factor for you? Was there a deciding factor?
NS:  Well, it was during the course of the novel and, of course, thatâs what happens in the novel is what Iâm trying to say there; and I knew all along that she would come out. I knew. I didnât⌠I didnât want toâŚÂ uhhh, I just knew but it was to bring the reader through all the emotions on the way to get there because⌠because sometimes these things happen; sometimes they donât. When they do, thereâs a really magical and wondrous feeling with it.
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Shari: The husband in a film called 45 Years that just came out, says âAll of the big decisions that we make, we do when weâre young; big decisions /choicesâ. And he had a real defeatist attitude which I donât agree with. What is your take on that? I think we can make life changing choices every day.
NS:  Of course. And at the same time, thereâs some validity (in it), when youâre young is usually when you choose your career, you might choose a partner or a spouse to be with; you might choose whether or not to have children and there are certain points in time when some of those are no longer valid. If youâre a woman and all of the sudden youâre fifty and you never had children⌠you canât bear them. You might be able to adopt, but you canât bear them. So, some choices, just by the nature of time itself⌠yeah, they come and go and theyâre focus is more when youâre young. However, thereâs always major choices that one can make because thereâs always the kind of life that you want to live and the new strugglesor the new sufferingsthat youâre willing to experience to get there; right? You want to go climb Mount Everest? Sure. Someoneâs done that in their seventies. Alright⌠youâre willing to do that suffering; all the training⌠are you willing? Do you really want to climb Everest? That would be one example, but sure itâs possible.Â
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I know what else is possible⌠you running to the theater this weekend and checking out Lionsgate presenting a Nicholas Sparks / Safran Company / POW! Production of  The Choice starring  Benjamin Walker, Teresa Palmer, Maggie Grace, Alexandra Daddario, Tom Welling, Brett Rice, and Tom Wilkinson. Donât forget to come back and let me know what you think of it!!! Have fun and Go Broncos! *Although, I have a feeling Sparks will win this one⌠just like his film will.  Bring a tissue! Â